February 27th | 2018
Emotional Readiness for Family Mediation
Most of us involved with Dispute Resolution - observe this all the time; the client in front of them is in shock, emotional, angry, sad, fearful for the future. This is not the best state of mind to be in in order to make supportive decisions for children or rational decisions about finances. This is not the best mind-set to be able to digest all the information and advice you will read and hear. This observation is a key finding in the report published by Anne Barlow et al from Exeter University: Creating Paths to Family Justice. They also make a point about “asymmetry” between parties in emotional readiness and in practical preparedness.
We at Albion offer a family mediation service which is more responsive to this reality. Some clients need time, and if practicable, temporary arrangements agreed. For others we can offer a therapeutic mediation process where clients get support in order to understand their emotional responses; clients need multiple ways to help them absorb the information they need to understand; signposting for parallel counselling support. We can invite other experts to join so you both hear the same information. So often, clients feel that they will best served in the litigation process –but this can be bruising and costly. They end up in an antagonistic process which is not suited to healing.
This is why we do not offer a fixed mediation model with fixed timeslots. We move between shuttle and joint meetings so you don’t always have to be in the same room if it’s not productive. It’s worth hearing how Albion Resolutions has a different mediation offer which has scope to offer what you might need.